Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Does Stephen Fry really like sex?

We regularly get reminders that although actors play clever, attractive and admirable people on stage and screen they tend to be narcissistic jerks in real life. Case in point, Stephen Fry who (based on his experiences as a gay male) has concluded that "women don't really like sex".

I know, I know but if you haven't had your laugh for the day, click on over and read it.

For my purposes, though, I want to stop and consider the portrait of what someone who really does like sex looks like according to Stephen Fry. Here is how Stephen Fry thinks people who do like sex behave:
‘If women liked sex as much as men, there would be straight cruising areas in the way there are gay cruising areas,’ he said.
‘Women would go and hang around in churchyards thinking, “God, I’ve got to get my ******* rocks off”, or they’d go to Hampstead Heath and meet strangers to s**g behind a bush.
Think about that for a while*. Would you say that someone really liked food because they tell you that they sometimes decide, "I've just got to nip around to the local fast food joint and get me a bacon double cheeseburger right now!" And then go and do it.

The only thing sadder than Stephen Fry's argument here would be if a bunch of feminists decided to respond by saying, "Don't say that because we're every bit as capable of that sort of thing." But at least we can rest assured that no feminist would ever do that.

Uh oh
Feminist journalist Miss Boycott said the claims were ‘kind of rubbish’, adding: ‘Women are just as capable as men are of enjoying sex.

'We don’t go cruising or cottaging on Hampstead Heath because we don’t need to.

'Women have other ways to get our thrills, and we can go and get them in bars or clubs.’
Oh well. "Miss Boycott" is a great name though. What a sad place the world would be if there weren't some people with names that sound like they came right out of a play.

* And doesn't it tell you everything you need to know about modern Britain to learn that churchyards are now cruising grounds?


  1. He doesn't realize what he's saying or saying unintentionally. He's making the gay practice of cruising for anonymous sex normative, and indicative of how much gay men love sex qua sex. In fact, cruising for anonymous sex is symptomatic of something deeper, where sex is used as a drug to numb the pain.

  2. That is a very good way of putting it. That's exactly what it is. Thank God for women restraining us or a lot more of us might be just like him.

    I was waking home from mass for All Souls today and saw something related to all this and will try and remember to post about it tomorrow.