There was an atypically negative reaction from a sizable minority of our readers to an item in our previous message regarding female fashion (along with positive feedback). We are truly grateful to those of you who took the time to send in criticisms--they help us more than you can possibly know. There is no doubt that your author failed as a writer because a good number of you clearly mistook his tone or meaning on an issue that is very personal, and for his part in failing to communicate and edify effectively, he sincerely apologizes. If your feelings were hurt, please, find it in your heart to forgive.This is a long-winded example of the classic non-apology. He isn't apologizing for what he said, he is saying he finds it unfortunate that others were upset. He thinks that he only failed in not expressing himself more carefully and does not accept that what he said was stupid, wrong and, far worse, passed itself off as Catholic when it is just one man's opinion.
In the unlikely event he comes by here, here is a suggestion for how to do it right.
Dear reader, when I wrote the post that caused so many of you to correctly complain, I was way out of line. It was a stupid, condescending post lacking proper respect for women. I am particularly sorry for the bit I site below which was so stupid as to be Neanderthal:Dear CatholiCity, please feel free to use the above with my blessing.
Do not misunderstand us: we have no problem with men delegating clothing purchases to their wives; we only object to men who abandon the responsibility they have to guide and influence the moral, psychological, and practical implications of clothing that is purchased. Men should set the highest standard for their wives and daughters in this respect.Quite obviously men have no authority whatsoever to guide their wives in what clothes the wear (although they are free to present their opinions and to listen to their wives opinions on the matter). If any proof were necessary that men do not have such authority I have provided it by making these ludicrous comments in the first place. Again, please accept my apologies.