That's the new uncool quote of the month.
I identified it as The Last Psychiatrist Channels Wittgenstein. It's from TLP's comments on Twilight four and a half years ago.
To get the point, you need to understand that there are serious games and unserious games. Boxing, for example, is a serious game where the point is to damage your opponent so much that he can't fight anymore. If you get into the ring without understanding that but your opponent does you will have a very rough time of it.
TLP's point about Twilight is that love is a serious game with serious consequences. Edward is easily able to convince Bella that he doesn't have time for games because she has already convinced herself that there must be some magic way to cut past all the games and get straight to the point. But what would getting straight to the point mean here?
Jerry and Lisa go to a really good restaurant together. They discuss wine and food together. They both enjoy the experience so they start going to a really good restaurant together once or twice every month. They also start doing other things together. They become a couple. Lisa becomes less and less interested in going out to restaurants. She is perfectly happy eating microwave dinners at home. Jerry asks what is is wrong and Lisa admits that she only pretended to like fine food and drink because it was a good way to meet men and have a relationship. Jerry is a little deceived at this but he really likes Lisa and he figures that he and Lisa can do other things together. Meanwhile, because he really likes fine food and drink, he finds someone else to do that with.
Does that sound like an acceptable arrangement to you? It seems fine to me. Okay, let's replace fine food and drink in the above scenario with sex. "... Jerry asks what is is wrong and Lisa admits that she only acted interested in sex because it was a good way to meet men and have a relationship. Jerry is a little deceived at this but he really likes Lisa and he figures that he and Lisa can do other things together. Meanwhile, because he really likes sex, he finds someone else to do that with."
The point is that once you grasp that you can't separate sex from love while you can separate love from sex, then you should be able to understand why all the "games" that women and men play on the way to love are absolutely necessary and not some ploy to frustrate you.
Postscript: TLP's title for his piece is "The Twilight Movie Review Your Boyfriend Doesn't Want You To Read". He gets that completely wrong. It should be, "The Twilight Movie Review You Don't Want Your Boyfriend To Read"
To get the point, you need to understand that there are serious games and unserious games. Boxing, for example, is a serious game where the point is to damage your opponent so much that he can't fight anymore. If you get into the ring without understanding that but your opponent does you will have a very rough time of it.
TLP's point about Twilight is that love is a serious game with serious consequences. Edward is easily able to convince Bella that he doesn't have time for games because she has already convinced herself that there must be some magic way to cut past all the games and get straight to the point. But what would getting straight to the point mean here?
Jerry and Lisa go to a really good restaurant together. They discuss wine and food together. They both enjoy the experience so they start going to a really good restaurant together once or twice every month. They also start doing other things together. They become a couple. Lisa becomes less and less interested in going out to restaurants. She is perfectly happy eating microwave dinners at home. Jerry asks what is is wrong and Lisa admits that she only pretended to like fine food and drink because it was a good way to meet men and have a relationship. Jerry is a little deceived at this but he really likes Lisa and he figures that he and Lisa can do other things together. Meanwhile, because he really likes fine food and drink, he finds someone else to do that with.
Does that sound like an acceptable arrangement to you? It seems fine to me. Okay, let's replace fine food and drink in the above scenario with sex. "... Jerry asks what is is wrong and Lisa admits that she only acted interested in sex because it was a good way to meet men and have a relationship. Jerry is a little deceived at this but he really likes Lisa and he figures that he and Lisa can do other things together. Meanwhile, because he really likes sex, he finds someone else to do that with."
The point is that once you grasp that you can't separate sex from love while you can separate love from sex, then you should be able to understand why all the "games" that women and men play on the way to love are absolutely necessary and not some ploy to frustrate you.
Postscript: TLP's title for his piece is "The Twilight Movie Review Your Boyfriend Doesn't Want You To Read". He gets that completely wrong. It should be, "The Twilight Movie Review You Don't Want Your Boyfriend To Read"
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