I read trash when traveling and that is why I bought the December issue of Men's Health. This issue features Ashton Kutcher on the cover so you know it has got to be trash.And boy does it deliver.
Page 33 features a photo of a woman wearing just a bra and with her jeans pushed down to her thighs. Her hand is just outside the frame but she is reaching down and it's hard not to think maybe she has her fingers in the cake.
A regular feature of the magazine is photographs of women in lingerie on their hands and knees as if crawling towards you. I wonder what we are supposed to think? I know what I think.
And then there are all the various studies they quote. This one on particular from page 46 jumped out at me:
In any case, I suspect there is a lot less to this than meets the eye. First, "there is a study that says", well, practically anything you want. Second, David Puts is an anthropologist and while I respect the work anthropologists do, calling him a "scientist" as opposed to "social scientist" gives a false impression because social science is considerably less scientific than real science.
And think for a second about a woman's motives in having sex with a highly masculine or dominant man. Is she thinking of only her pleasure when she does this? Or does she maybe want the satisfaction that comes from having her desirability validated by having him pursue her? And the further satisfaction that comes from seeing the effects her sexual power has on him?
And what about the man's motives in this situation. Are guys who always want a woman to come first really as giving and generous as is being claimed here? And we might ask ourselves whether the claim by the authors that her coming first is always a sign of intense pleasure. Sometimes it must be but there are plenty of times when a woman's pleasure delayed is her pleasure intensified. I'm too much of a gentleman to say more but the stories I could tell ... .
To get back to the man's motives, and without getting to detailed about it, it's a major source of male pleasure and satisfaction to watch a woman as she has an orgasm and it's more exciting to watch that if you haven't yet come yourself.
And the reverse holds for her too. She will sometimes want to watch you while reach orgasm and she is still very aroused. She will also do what is necessary to get you there with more enthusiasm when highly aroused which can be better for both of you.
Most important of all, she wants you to be masculine and strong and, let's not kid ourselves, she probably would warm to a little dominance too. I'm not saying all women like to be at least a little submissive in bed at least some of the time but women who do are about as rare as men who like sports.
Page 33 features a photo of a woman wearing just a bra and with her jeans pushed down to her thighs. Her hand is just outside the frame but she is reaching down and it's hard not to think maybe she has her fingers in the cake.
A regular feature of the magazine is photographs of women in lingerie on their hands and knees as if crawling towards you. I wonder what we are supposed to think? I know what I think.
And then there are all the various studies they quote. This one on particular from page 46 jumped out at me:
Penn State scientists found that arrogant men may give women less satisfying orgasms. Women in the study were less likely to climax first—a sign of intense pleasure—if their partners rated themselves as highly masculine or dominant. Self-satisfied men may be less attentive lovers says study author David Puts.As I've written before, here they go looking for the cloud in the silver lining again. I can already see how a certain type of whining boy would get all heated up about the unfairness of it all reading this. All you need to do is to couple this with other studies showing that men who rate themselves as highly masculine or dominant get more partners and the familiar "nice guys finish last" refrain comes raining out.
In any case, I suspect there is a lot less to this than meets the eye. First, "there is a study that says", well, practically anything you want. Second, David Puts is an anthropologist and while I respect the work anthropologists do, calling him a "scientist" as opposed to "social scientist" gives a false impression because social science is considerably less scientific than real science.
And think for a second about a woman's motives in having sex with a highly masculine or dominant man. Is she thinking of only her pleasure when she does this? Or does she maybe want the satisfaction that comes from having her desirability validated by having him pursue her? And the further satisfaction that comes from seeing the effects her sexual power has on him?
And what about the man's motives in this situation. Are guys who always want a woman to come first really as giving and generous as is being claimed here? And we might ask ourselves whether the claim by the authors that her coming first is always a sign of intense pleasure. Sometimes it must be but there are plenty of times when a woman's pleasure delayed is her pleasure intensified. I'm too much of a gentleman to say more but the stories I could tell ... .
To get back to the man's motives, and without getting to detailed about it, it's a major source of male pleasure and satisfaction to watch a woman as she has an orgasm and it's more exciting to watch that if you haven't yet come yourself.
And the reverse holds for her too. She will sometimes want to watch you while reach orgasm and she is still very aroused. She will also do what is necessary to get you there with more enthusiasm when highly aroused which can be better for both of you.
Most important of all, she wants you to be masculine and strong and, let's not kid ourselves, she probably would warm to a little dominance too. I'm not saying all women like to be at least a little submissive in bed at least some of the time but women who do are about as rare as men who like sports.
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