Imagine men sitting around in a circle talking about how she called him impotent and how she manipulated him into sex, how violated and dirty he felt afterward, how coercive she was, how she got him drunk first, how he hated his body and he couldn't eat for three weeks afterward. Imagine him calling this rape. Everyone feels the weight of emotional pressure at one time or another. The question is not whether people pressure each other but how our minds and our culture transform that pressure into full-blown assault.
Katie Roiphe has long been a voice of sanity for feminism. Read the whole thing.
From my perspective, the problem is that men are increasingly being encouraged into joining just such discussion groups. Not for rape, not yet anyway, but for lots of other things.
Repeat after me, "I am not a victim!"